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Larri Tonelli Parker attended the New England Chapter, Association for Conflict Resolution (“NE-ACR”) program in Wellesley, Massachusetts on Conflict, Consensus and Leadership in the Political Debate on the eve of Conflict Resolution Day.
Mediation is used to resolve all kinds of conflict. Individuals and communities benefit from mediators who facilitate small and large groups in consensus-building. Parker Mediation provides members of our community many resolution strategies to help people keep the peace and reach their full potential.
Mediators bring diverse people together to reach agreements on complex issues. Mediation is designed to overcome barriers, encourage dialog and entertain productive negotiations. Mediation helps people coexist in a world full of conflict. If you have a problem and need help finding common ground, give mediation a try. Call us 508 795 0200. Mediation Works!
The Times of India | Bhopal
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BHOPAL: Beginning Saturday, 32 teams from 29 colleges of India and abroad will compete for top honours at the 2nd international mediation competition at the National Law Institute University, (NLIU) Bhopal. The three-day competition will end on Oct 14.
The competition was inaugurated on Friday. It is the second consecutive year when the NLIU, Bhopal is hosting the event. It is hosted in association with International Academy Alternative Dispute Resolution (INADR), a leading international organization on mediation. As part of this association, INADR holds a capsule training session for all teams before the start of the competition.
A mediation session is where parties mutually agree to resolve their disputes through talking and a discussion-based model.
Convener, Alternate Dispute Resolution Cell (ADRC), NLIU, Prateek Mishra said, the aim of the competition is to arrive at a solution that is mutual and does not compromise much with the aims of either party.
“There is a lot of scope for out-of-the-box thinking, real life solutions, creativity, even theatrics, without going into the legal hassles of procedure and lots of paper work,” he said.
There will be three cash prizes-best overall team, best advocate and client pair and best mediator of Rs 30,000, 20,000 and Rs 10,000 respectively.
NLIU director, professor SS Singh, NLIU, President of INADR, H Case Ellis, secretary INADR, Tom Valenti and administrator Meghann Sweeney attended the inaugural ceremony earlier during the day. Prof Singh suggested that the problems based on real life situations be incorporated in the competition to make the experience richer.
The ceremony was followed by a training workshop for all students. The members of INADR addressed the doubts of the students with respect to mediation and also gave important suggestions on improving the mediation skills. T he entire process of mediation was discussed at length.
The competition rounds are to begin from Saturday. The final round is scheduled to be organised on Sunday.
I love the country of Tanzania! It will always be important to me, since I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro and went on safari there. I saw exotic animals, including the big five! Climbing to the roof of Africa, crossing the Serengeti and traveling north to the Mara river was a fantastic adventure. As a team member of Parkers Climb, we raised thousands of dollars to raise awareness and fund research for Parkinsons disease. I’m proud to know the Tanzanian people seek mediation to resolve problems.
Tanzania asks for mediation over Lake Malawi dispute
By Fumbuka Ng’wanakilala
DAR ES SALAAM | Sat Oct 6, 2012 3:32pm EDT
DAR ES SALAAM Oct 6 (Reuters) – Tanzania called on Saturday for an international mediator to resolve a long-standing border dispute with Malawi, conceding the latest talks over territorial rights to Lake Malawi and its potential reserves of oil and gas have failed.
The call comes after Malawi accused its neighbour of intimidating its citizens, halting talks with Tanzania over the ownership of the lake.
“It is clear now, that we cannot resolve the issue between us,” Tanzania’s foreign affairs minister, Bernard Membe, told a news conference. “We will go ahead and propose a mediator, even if Malawi does not return to the negotiations.”
Lake Malawi, known as Lake Nyasa in Tanzania, is Africa’s third largest lake and it is thought to sit over highly coveted oil and gas reserves.
Gas finds off Tanzania and Mozambique have led to predictions the region could become the third largest exporter of natural gas on the planet.
Malawi claims sovereignty over the entirety of the lake while Tanzania says it is entitled to 50 percent of it.
Tanzania wants an international mediator to be appointed from among former African presidents from the 15-nation trade bloc Southern African Development Community (SADC). Both Tanzania and Malawi are members of SADC.
Malawian officials have made it clear they will not continue with talks until Tanzania stops intimidating Malawi fishermen, an accusation denied by Dar Es Saalam.
Malawi said Tanzania had deployed military vessels on the lake, which Membe denied.
Malawi also wants Tanzania to withdraw a map that shows the border line passing in the middle of the disputed lake.
Why can’t folks just be reasonable?
When emotions and numbers collide during divorce you can take some simple steps to help yourself.
Break down the divorce process into small manageable tasks to make the transition easier for the whole family.
Three easy steps to take financial control:
1) Track your expenses
2) Calculate your income
3) Create a budget
Do the same for your spouse to make a fair analysis of the financial picture.
Three easy steps to create a parenting plan:
1) Calendar your schedule
2) Calendar your children’s schedule
3) Calendar your spouse’s schedule
Use the calendar to figure out logistics for parenting time, including transportation for school and extracurricular activities. If possible, schedule some down time for yourself!
Stay calm and take time to relax. Experienced mediators are available to help you through your divorce. Call Parker Mediation 508 795 0200 for help.
Larri Tonelli Parker and all of us at Parker Mediation join in wishing you a Happy July 4th!
On July 2, 2012 the Probate and Family Court will implement changes to standing order 2-99. Standing Order 2-99 governs the “procedure for submission and disposition of certain post-hearing motions.” Motions filed pursuant to standing order 2-99 must include the name of the justice who made the original order and must cite the applicable rule related to the relief requested.
The types of motions that may be filed under standing order 2-99 include: Rule 52 to amend findings of fact; Rule 52, to amend conclusions of law; Rule 59, for new trial; Rule 59(e), to amend judgments; and Rule 60, for relief from judgment and order.
All filings made by mail must note the amended standing order on the lower left corner of the mailing envelope, writing “Post-hearing Motion” will suffice. The motion should include a brief statement, not to exceed five pages, indicating the facts and law that support why the motion should be granted. Opposition papers may be filed within ten days after service of the motion. If a party requests a hearing, the court may schedule a hearing, but is not required to do so. The court may act on the motion without a hearing, based upon the written submissions under the standing order.
The changes were recommended by the Probate and Family Court Bench/Bar Committe on Rules.
The Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court recently issued an opinion on whether a lawyer, disciplined and disqualified from practicing law, may serve as a mediator. While the court recognized that generally mediation is not considered practicing law, it did suggest several circumstances where a lawyer may be prohibited from acting as a mediator, due to bar discipline.
The Court articulated the following factors, “(1) whether the type of work is customarily performed by lawyers as part of their legal practice; (2) whether the work was performed by the lawyer prior to suspension, disbarment, or resignation for misconduct; (3) whether, following suspension, disbarment, or resignation for misconduct, the lawyer has performed or seeks leave to perform the work in the same office or community, or for other lawyers; and (4) whether the work as performed by the lawyer invokes the lawyer’s professional judgment in applying legal principles to address the individual needs of clients.”
While this may be an extreme example, not all mediators are alike. Experience counts! Take the time to interview several mediators to find the right fit for you. Call our case manager, Yvonne, at 508 795 0200. She will explain the mediation process and match you with one of our qualified and experienced divorce and family law mediators. At Parker Mediation, you have choices. Call us today to get started, 508 795 0200.
Sometimes people can “get stuck” in the divorce process. This can occur when one or both parties take a stand and become as seemingly immovable as a mountain. When people take positions, they often fail to see solutions to the problems. Focusing only on one possibility can lead to an impasse. Communication may break down, harsh words may be exchanged, and the parties may become frustrated and drift even further apart. An experienced mediator guides folks to understand the Zen Buddhist idea captured by Donovan in the song, “There is a Mountain.”
First there is a mountain, then there is no mountain, then there is.
From my own experience climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro last summer, I attest to the truth of this statement. Walking for days on the African plains, creeping toward the great monadnock affectionately nicknamed “Kili”, I understood. Mount Kilimanjaro was big, really large, even enormous. I was not, however, paralyzed with fear; I proceeded and yielded to the task. As I climbed the looming mountain, with each small step, it disappeared beneath my feet. Finally, when I reached the summit, I was as light as the air.
The practice of teaching clients to see beyond the mountain, to explore alternatives to the principles they cling too, to get past the positions they are stuck on, is artful mediation. When the mediator is mindful of potential situational deadlock, tactics may be used to avoid a destructive phase where communication deteriorates and progress is halted. An experienced divorce mediator shares professional and personal insight with clients, permitting change and creating an atmosphere where solutions are made. At times this may be subtle, but may also be more of a metamorphosis, where understanding and collaboration promote change.
First there is a mountain, then there is no mountain, then there is.
The song continues, “The caterpillar sheds his skin to find a butterfly within.” Mindful mediation can help people give up the old ways and find a new, fresh, perhaps even better life. An experienced, professional mediator can help.
If you wish to learn how you can keep control of your divorce, call our divorce mediation case manager, Yvonne, she’ll get you started in your new life.
Call us at 508 795 0200.
The Implementation of the MASSACHUSETTS UNIFORM PROBATE CODE (“MUPC”) is effective as of March 31, 2012 in the Worcester County Probate Court. If you recently lost a family member or loved one and need to probate the estate, please use the new format. New forms for the probate of estates are available on Mass.gov and on the new Worcester County Probate Court Web site. If you have questions or need assistance feel free to contact us at 508.795.0200. You can do this, we can help.
Parker Mediation is dedicated to serving our clients with the best experience through troubled times. Our experienced divorce mediators help parties move away from positional bargaining and towards ideas that serve the interests of our clients. Cooperative explorations help people avoid impasses and obtain individualized and unique solutions. Our mediators defuse difficult situations that may have occurred when prior tactics failed.
How mediators help people is part skill, part art and part intuition. We understand that divorce can bring about negative feelings, poor behaviors and even irrational thinking. Our divorce mediators are specially trained to help you through aggressive adversarial tactics, insulting offers and bad faith proposals. We do this by exploring the realities and consequences of many different choices. Fear often drives people to act in unflattering ways. By taking control of your divorce, fear is reduced, rational thinking prevails and good decisions are made.
To learn more about divorce mediation and to schedule time with one of our mediators, call Yvonne at 508.795.0200. She’ll answer any additional questions and explain how to get started.
Valentine’s Day may be bitter sweet if you are struggling in a broken marriage. Do not despair, you can take charge of your future. Have a heart to heart talk with your spouse. Change may be difficult, but sometimes change is for the best. At Parker Mediation we help couples get through divorce with the least amount of pain possible. Next year will be better, you’ll see. Call 508.795.0200.
New Year’s Resolutions!
Don’t worry if you already failed to follow through on your New Year Resolutions, you can start fresh with the Year of the Red Dragon. That means good luck for you! Each New Year brings an opportunity to reflect on the past and to design the future. Resolve to make 2012 a great year. Take the steps to make the changes you need in your life. While we often resist change, go ahead, it will be ok.
Top Ten Resolutions:
#10 Get Organized!
Clean your desk, organize your papers, and collect your year-end documents so they will be ready for tax season. If you plan to divorce this year, these documents will assist you to analyze your financial situation. Also, you’ll be prepared to make full financial disclosure as part of the mediation process. You, your spouse and your divorce mediator will utilize the information to create a sustainable plan for the future.
Help others in need; it will make you realize that things aren’t so bad after all. Going through a divorce can be difficult. You may feel depressed and isolated. By volunteering, you will meet new people and feel good about yourself.
#8 Try Something New!
When was the last time you tried something for the first time? Learning something new helps stimulate the brain and keeps you young. If you are going through a divorce, your life is going to be different. Why not take the opportunity to do something you always wanted to try.
#7 Get Rid of Debt!
Live well, but within your means. Cut back on spending now to realize savings in the future. Divorce is usually a challenge financially. You can save a load of money using divorce mediation. The cost for divorce mediation is typically many thousands of dollars less than traditional litigation.
#6 Stop Smoking!
Really, just stop! If you need help, get it. There are lots of techniques to quit smoking. Herbs such as Lobelia and Oat Straw are just one of the many supportive therapies available to stop smoking. Need a reward? Just think how much money you will save.
#5 Get Fit!
Sounds easy, but it’s not. Getting fit and staying fit takes time. Start with a walk, then increase the time and distance. Change your routine, experiment and find things you like to do. Make a fitness date with a friend. Getting motivated and following through is easier when you do it together. Have fun and don’t get discouraged.
#4 Eat Healthy!
Eat your fruit and vegetables. Listen to your mother!
#3 Lose Weight
The stress of divorce can lead to unwanted pounds. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself eating cookies and ice cream. Let’s face it, you will feel better if you eat properly and exercise. Dropping a few pounds will not only make you feel better, you’ll look better. This could come in real handy post-divorce.
#2 Spend Time with Friends!
If you are used to being a couple, it may feel awkward getting out with friends. Just do it! How else are you going to meet new people? Socializing will help you get a glimpse of the future while navigating through the transition period.
#1 Joie de vivre!
Ok, so things didn’t turn out the way you expected. Life isn’t predictable, but it is worth living and you know how to give your best. Go ahead, enjoy yourself! You deserve to be happy.
How is Alimony determined in Massachusetts?
The Alimony Reform Act of 2011, Massachusetts General Laws §§48-55, provides new guidelines for alimony in Massachusetts. The new alimony law goes in to effect March 1, 2012. The Act provides guidelines for alimony amount and duration. The new law will promote consistency in alimony orders and flexibility in the types of alimony ordered, while reserving judicial discretion for special circumstances.
Under the Alimony Reform Act of 2011, there are several types of alimony: General Alimony, Rehabilitative Alimony, Reimbursement Alimony and Transitional Alimony. The new alimony guidelines create a structure for determinations of alimony. The various types of alimony provide for increased flexibility in making alimony orders, while specific guidelines promote consistency in alimony orders. And because there are always special circumstances the New Alimony Act preserves judicial discretion in creating fair and equitable alimony orders.
Contact an experienced divorce attorney mediator to learn how the Alimony Reform Act of 2011 may affect you. If you are contemplating divorce, if you are currently receiving alimony, if you are paying alimony, or if you are a stay-at-home parent, you need to understand the impact of the new alimony laws. Contact us at 508 795 0200 to learn more.
Joint Petition for Modification
A Joint Petition and Affidavit for Modification of Judgment soon will be available for use in The Probate & Family Court. This will be a welcome tool for folks utilizing mediation services. Parties will be able to mediate modification agreements and then file them with the court using a Joint Petition. The proposed Rule 412 will facilitate uncontested actions to modify judgments. The filing may be approved by the Court administratively. That means you won’t have to go to court, unless the court determines that a hearing is necessary or helpful for disposition of the petition.
The Massachusetts Probate & Family Court is planning to permit folks to file a Joint Petition for Modification of Judgment. Parties that wish to file a joint petition will file a signed and notarized agreement, accompanied with an affidavit. In matters involving changes to financial terms, the parties will also file financial statements and/or child support guidelines worksheets. This new process will save time, money and relieve the long lines in the Probate & Family Court. Unless the court schedules a hearing, you will have your decision in fourteen days.
This is a welcome tool to assist families that want to make changes to their divorce agreements. Filing a Joint Petition for Modification of Judgment will be less costly than going through a traditional process of filing a Complaint for Modification. Using mediation to discuss proposed changes to parenting plans, Alimony and child support, will keep open lines of communication. You stay in control of the process and avoid litigation. The divorce mediators at Parker Mediation will facilitate the process to modify your judgment. We keep it simple and confidential; call us today at 508 795 0200 to take the next steps.
Massachusetts Mediator Larri Tonelli Parker specializes in family and divorce mediation and has over twenty five years experience helping families and couples resolve their differences amicably. Call us to learn how divorce mediation can save you time and money.
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