Parker Mediation is grateful for the opportunity to help so many people through difficult times. Mediation minimizes the trauma on families facing divorce, making holidays less stressful and more enjoyable. You deserve to enjoy a harvest of happiness during the holidays.
Halloween safety tips:
1. Use reflective clothing, tape or lights.
2. Drive slowly to avoid monsters.
3. Serve a healthy meal before heading out.
4. Trick or treat in familiar neighborhoods.
5. Supervise young children.
6. Ensure older revelers use the buddy system.
7. Plan a route and return time.
8. Carry a cell phone for emergencies.
9. Make sure masks don’t limit vision.
10. Don’t enter homes of strangers.
11. Check treats before eating them.
12. Walk on the sidewalk.
13. Avoid vampire bites.
Halloween is an exciting time for kids, encourage them to pay attention and be responsible for their own safety. Stay safe and have spooky fun.
Why talk about Bankruptcy?
Divorce mediation is a process for parties to formulate their own agreements. Sometimes divorce discussions include consideration of bankruptcy filings by one or both parties. Divorce and bankruptcy may occur at the same time.
When appropriate, the parties may consult with a bankruptcy attorney. Parker Mediation makes referrals if parties are facing foreclosure on a home or have overwhelming debts. Coordinating your divorce and bankruptcy may save you money and help you make a better financial plan.
Divorce and bankruptcy may occur at the same time. Properly planning for both will reduce hardship for all involved. Parker Mediation helps you gather the information you need to make informed decisions.
We want you to explore all of your options. Sometimes Bankruptcy is the best solution and we want you to know what to expect if you find yourself in Bankruptcy Court.
Divorce mediation covers all the topics you need to address in order to obtain a divorce in Massachusetts. Child support, spousal support, health insurance, division of property and division of marital debt are essential topics that must be resolved. In addition, Parker Mediation provides additional supports, including bankruptcy resources, to help folks that are divorcing plan a brighter financial future.
If you have questions about divorce, call us today 508.795.0200. We want to help you.
Spring is the season of rebirth and renewal.
Disputes happen to people everywhere. While many conflicts end after civil conversation or fizzle out over time, some are more complicated to resolve alone. When conflicts are poorly managed or remain unresolved, some folks resort to court action. Court actions are often slow, expensive and time consuming.
Divorce Mediation has many advantages:
* Speed – You can resolve disputes months before a trial date is available.
* Cost – You reduce legal costs and attorney fees.
* Control – You stay in charge of the schedule and the costs.
* Voluntary – You create your own settlement.
* Neutral – Professional experienced mediators guide you to agreement.
To learn more call Parker Mediation 508 795 0200. Parker Mediation provides a free divorce mediation consultation.
Imagine the children remain in the family home and parents take turns alternating care-taking responsibilities. Rather than require the children to move in and out of two homes, the parents co-parent by alternating the residential schedule. Nesting is not a novel idea. The kids get to stay in the home, remain in the same schools, stay in the same neighborhood and keep the same friends. Parents alternate moving in and out of the home to parent the children. If you have the resources, consider the concept of providing the children with a stable home, where each parent moves in and out as the residential caretaker. While the overall housing costs for the family may increase, the emotional stability may offset the financial challenge.
Parker Mediation has assisted families that employ this approach. If you would like more information about the nesting experience, contact us at 508 795 0200.
For additional information you can check out KidsStay.org.
Parker Mediation provides full service mediation. Our mediators use video conferencing when one party lives out of the area. Communication if face to face over the Internet in real time. You can successfully use mediation to divorce while living far apart. On-line video conferencing provides flexibility for folks, reducing the need to travel long distances.
To learn more, call 508 795 0200.
Thinking about divorce? Ask an experienced Worcester Divorce Attorney if divorce mediation is right for you.
If you made it through the holidays thinking “never again” you may be ready to divorce. Think before you act. You could initiate an expensive, litigious and stressful process or you could consider divorce mediation.
You fell in love, got married, and maybe you had kids. Getting divorced may not be easy, but why make it harder or more expensive than it has to be.
Try mediation before going to court.
Divorce Mediation can be faster, cheaper and less stressful than traditional representation. The cost to divorce with attorneys and multiple court appearances can become enormous.
You have nothing to lose by using mediation; it’s simpler, quicker and makes better outcomes. You stay in control of the divorce mediation, it’s confidential and private.
Mediation involves the use of an independent, qualified and neutral third party to help couples talk through how they will divide their assets and decide what to do with their children.
Each New Year many couples decide to separate. The stressful holidays are behind them and they are ready for a fresh start.
Happy New Year! Happy new you!
Contact Parker Mediation at 508.795.0200 to learn more about divorce mediation and what we can do for you.
Happy New Year! Time for 2013!
I love the country of Tanzania! It will always be important to me, since I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro and went on safari there. I saw exotic animals, including the big five! Climbing to the roof of Africa, crossing the Serengeti and traveling north to the Mara river was a fantastic adventure. As a team member of Parkers Climb, we raised thousands of dollars to raise awareness and fund research for Parkinsons disease. I’m proud to know the Tanzanian people seek mediation to resolve problems.
Tanzania asks for mediation over Lake Malawi dispute
By Fumbuka Ng’wanakilala
DAR ES SALAAM | Sat Oct 6, 2012 3:32pm EDT
DAR ES SALAAM Oct 6 (Reuters) – Tanzania called on Saturday for an international mediator to resolve a long-standing border dispute with Malawi, conceding the latest talks over territorial rights to Lake Malawi and its potential reserves of oil and gas have failed.
The call comes after Malawi accused its neighbour of intimidating its citizens, halting talks with Tanzania over the ownership of the lake.
“It is clear now, that we cannot resolve the issue between us,” Tanzania’s foreign affairs minister, Bernard Membe, told a news conference. “We will go ahead and propose a mediator, even if Malawi does not return to the negotiations.”
Lake Malawi, known as Lake Nyasa in Tanzania, is Africa’s third largest lake and it is thought to sit over highly coveted oil and gas reserves.
Gas finds off Tanzania and Mozambique have led to predictions the region could become the third largest exporter of natural gas on the planet.
Malawi claims sovereignty over the entirety of the lake while Tanzania says it is entitled to 50 percent of it.
Tanzania wants an international mediator to be appointed from among former African presidents from the 15-nation trade bloc Southern African Development Community (SADC). Both Tanzania and Malawi are members of SADC.
Malawian officials have made it clear they will not continue with talks until Tanzania stops intimidating Malawi fishermen, an accusation denied by Dar Es Saalam.
Malawi said Tanzania had deployed military vessels on the lake, which Membe denied.
Malawi also wants Tanzania to withdraw a map that shows the border line passing in the middle of the disputed lake.
Why can’t folks just be reasonable?
When emotions and numbers collide during divorce you can take some simple steps to help yourself.
Break down the divorce process into small manageable tasks to make the transition easier for the whole family.
Three easy steps to take financial control:
1) Track your expenses
2) Calculate your income
3) Create a budget
Do the same for your spouse to make a fair analysis of the financial picture.
Three easy steps to create a parenting plan:
1) Calendar your schedule
2) Calendar your children’s schedule
3) Calendar your spouse’s schedule
Use the calendar to figure out logistics for parenting time, including transportation for school and extracurricular activities. If possible, schedule some down time for yourself!
Stay calm and take time to relax. Experienced mediators are available to help you through your divorce. Call Parker Mediation 508 795 0200 for help.
Larri Tonelli Parker and all of us at Parker Mediation join in wishing you a Happy July 4th!
On July 2, 2012 the Probate and Family Court will implement changes to standing order 2-99. Standing Order 2-99 governs the “procedure for submission and disposition of certain post-hearing motions.” Motions filed pursuant to standing order 2-99 must include the name of the justice who made the original order and must cite the applicable rule related to the relief requested.
The types of motions that may be filed under standing order 2-99 include: Rule 52 to amend findings of fact; Rule 52, to amend conclusions of law; Rule 59, for new trial; Rule 59(e), to amend judgments; and Rule 60, for relief from judgment and order.
All filings made by mail must note the amended standing order on the lower left corner of the mailing envelope, writing “Post-hearing Motion” will suffice. The motion should include a brief statement, not to exceed five pages, indicating the facts and law that support why the motion should be granted. Opposition papers may be filed within ten days after service of the motion. If a party requests a hearing, the court may schedule a hearing, but is not required to do so. The court may act on the motion without a hearing, based upon the written submissions under the standing order.
The changes were recommended by the Probate and Family Court Bench/Bar Committe on Rules.
Sometimes people can “get stuck” in the divorce process. This can occur when one or both parties take a stand and become as seemingly immovable as a mountain. When people take positions, they often fail to see solutions to the problems. Focusing only on one possibility can lead to an impasse. Communication may break down, harsh words may be exchanged, and the parties may become frustrated and drift even further apart. An experienced mediator guides folks to understand the Zen Buddhist idea captured by Donovan in the song, “There is a Mountain.”
First there is a mountain, then there is no mountain, then there is.
From my own experience climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro last summer, I attest to the truth of this statement. Walking for days on the African plains, creeping toward the great monadnock affectionately nicknamed “Kili”, I understood. Mount Kilimanjaro was big, really large, even enormous. I was not, however, paralyzed with fear; I proceeded and yielded to the task. As I climbed the looming mountain, with each small step, it disappeared beneath my feet. Finally, when I reached the summit, I was as light as the air.
The practice of teaching clients to see beyond the mountain, to explore alternatives to the principles they cling too, to get past the positions they are stuck on, is artful mediation. When the mediator is mindful of potential situational deadlock, tactics may be used to avoid a destructive phase where communication deteriorates and progress is halted. An experienced divorce mediator shares professional and personal insight with clients, permitting change and creating an atmosphere where solutions are made. At times this may be subtle, but may also be more of a metamorphosis, where understanding and collaboration promote change.
First there is a mountain, then there is no mountain, then there is.
The song continues, “The caterpillar sheds his skin to find a butterfly within.” Mindful mediation can help people give up the old ways and find a new, fresh, perhaps even better life. An experienced, professional mediator can help.
If you wish to learn how you can keep control of your divorce, call our divorce mediation case manager, Yvonne, she’ll get you started in your new life.
Call us at 508 795 0200.
The Implementation of the MASSACHUSETTS UNIFORM PROBATE CODE (“MUPC”) is effective as of March 31, 2012 in the Worcester County Probate Court. If you recently lost a family member or loved one and need to probate the estate, please use the new format. New forms for the probate of estates are available on Mass.gov and on the new Worcester County Probate Court Web site. If you have questions or need assistance feel free to contact us at 508.795.0200. You can do this, we can help.