Parker Mediation is grateful for the opportunity to help so many people through difficult times. Mediation minimizes the trauma on families facing divorce, making holidays less stressful and more enjoyable. You deserve to enjoy a harvest of happiness during the holidays.
Parker Mediation empowers parents who are going through divorce to develop a parenting plan that works for the entire family. The work schedules of both parents, school or daycare schedules and the children’s activities are all considered in creating a plan that addresses transitions, transportation and supervision for the children. Summer schedules sometimes present challenges for parents who both work. If you want more information or need help developing an appropriate parenting plan this summer, call us at 508 795 0200.
Summer creates opportunities to enjoy more flexible scheduling with children. Without the demands of school, homework and organized activities, why not plan a day trip with the kids.
You and your family can enjoy the summer, even if you are in the process of getting divorced. Take the kids to a park, lake or beach. Making happy memories is one of the best things you can do for your children. Give them your time and attention, relax, slow down, focus on all the good things in your life.
When was the last time you tried something for the first time? Fly a kite, surf the waves, collect beach treasure or get lost in a book. The sun, sand, wind and water are all good for you and your kids. Enjoy yourself, you deserve it.
There is plenty of summer time left, the weather is perfect, get out and find your joy. You deserve to find happiness, make new friends, and spend a meaningful day with your children.
As you head in to the last month of school, it is time to plan for summer. What are your kids doing this summer? How will you and your spouse manage child care if you both work?
Don’t stretch yourself too thin. Determine what your children’s interests are, then figure out an affordable budget. Ask other parents for tips and ideas. Use family members to help care for the children. Grandparents, aunts, uncles and close friends are often willing to help out. Everyone will likely benefit from the time together and relationships with extended family members can grow stronger. A mix of scheduled and unscheduled activities will provide diverse experiences for your children.
If you are already separated, start thinking about vacation dates and let the other parent know so you don’t end up wanting the same weeks. Communicate in advance to avoid problems later. If you need help making decisions for the summer, give us a call 508 795 0200. Our mediators are here to help you make parenting plans for your children. Summer is for fun, plan now so you and your children can enjoy it.
Imagine the children remain in the family home and parents take turns alternating care-taking responsibilities. Rather than require the children to move in and out of two homes, the parents co-parent by alternating the residential schedule. Nesting is not a novel idea. The kids get to stay in the home, remain in the same schools, stay in the same neighborhood and keep the same friends. Parents alternate moving in and out of the home to parent the children. If you have the resources, consider the concept of providing the children with a stable home, where each parent moves in and out as the residential caretaker. While the overall housing costs for the family may increase, the emotional stability may offset the financial challenge.
Parker Mediation has assisted families that employ this approach. If you would like more information about the nesting experience, contact us at 508 795 0200.
For additional information you can check out KidsStay.org.
Getting divorced is like climbing a mountain. You have to take one step at a time. The challenge of divorce, like climbing a mountain, is you cannot see what is on the other side until you reach the top. Often times it seems the peak is too high to reach or exhaustion clouds the mind making it difficult to go on. Having a guide is often the best way to manage a challenging climb.
At Parker Mediation, we explain each step and prepare you for the next. Through a series of mediation sessions, couples work out solutions and formulate a plan for the future. This includes a parenting plan that not only creates a schedule for the children, but also develops a method for managing inevitable changes as the children age. The parties develop a financial plan that takes into account the present and future needs of the children.
The mediator helps you to anticipate the future, which allows for smoother transitions. No divorce plan is complete without making budgets and developing a financial plan to meet the current needs and future needs of the parties and any children. It is never too early to start saving for college expenses or planning for retirement. The rising cost of education, healthcare and the uncertainty over whether social security will be adequate support are prime examples why good financial planning is so important.
Teenage children sometimes become confused and present with difficult behavior. Parenting that previously worked may no longer manage difficult behaviors. During divorce, strategies that once helped seem to make things worse. Parenting through divorce presents unique challenges and concerns. Professionals can provide helpful information when co-parenting seems impossible.
Courts are often ill equipped to make important parenting decisions about adolescents. Some teenage children get what they want, even in cases where a professional Guardian Ad Litem makes specific recommendations. This may results in dramatic changes for a child who is undergoing multiple changes due to parental divorce and adolescence. Parents may better explore and understand the best interests of their child when mediators provide education and resources.
Research in the area of development psychology is relevant to understanding what is in the best interests of our teenagers. Participants in mediation each share their belief systems about what is best for the adolescent in regards to parenting and living arrangements. Learning how to manage parental conflict, to minimize the harmful effects on the adolescent child, is a big factor in the child’s future success. Families struggling with adolescent issues will find better resolutions using mediation.
There will always be conflict; learning skills to manage opposition is a worthy task for all parents. Differences of opinion arise whether couples remain married or parent post-divorce. Finding solutions together provides a less stressful atmosphere for the child and the parents.
If you are filing for a divorce in Massachusetts, in which there are minor children, you are required to attend a Parent Education Program. Online parent education programs are not accepted in Massachusetts.