Magna Carta, dating back eight centuries is still relevant today. Celebrate its 800 year history this week. What liberties, freedoms, values do you most cherish?
Divorce Corp.’s Only Boston Screening was held on January 23, 2014, hosted by the National Parents Organization, the only organization showing Divorce Corp. in Boston.
I went to see the new documentary “Divorce Corp” last month. While it depicts lawyers in an unflattering light, it sheds light on the “Big Business” of divorce. The movie follows the money and the people that flow through family court systems.
If you know someone who is thinking about divorce, please share information about divorce mediation.
Check out the trailer for Divorce Corp. http://youtu.be/lZTOT6DKfZ8. Why spend money foolishly like those depicted in this movie? Divorce doesn’t have to get nasty. Divorce doesn’t have to be expensive. I’m not saying divorce is easy, but I do know this, there is a better way.
Call us 508-795-0200, we’ll help you save time and money. Maybe you can’t save your marriage, but you don’t have to lose everything to get divorced.
Mediation works, experience counts, call Parker Mediation 508-795-0200.
Thinking about divorce? Ask an experienced Worcester Divorce Attorney if divorce mediation is right for you.
If you made it through the holidays thinking “never again” you may be ready to divorce. Think before you act. You could initiate an expensive, litigious and stressful process or you could consider divorce mediation.
You fell in love, got married, and maybe you had kids. Getting divorced may not be easy, but why make it harder or more expensive than it has to be.
Try mediation before going to court.
Divorce Mediation can be faster, cheaper and less stressful than traditional representation. The cost to divorce with attorneys and multiple court appearances can become enormous.
You have nothing to lose by using mediation; it’s simpler, quicker and makes better outcomes. You stay in control of the divorce mediation, it’s confidential and private.
Mediation involves the use of an independent, qualified and neutral third party to help couples talk through how they will divide their assets and decide what to do with their children.
Each New Year many couples decide to separate. The stressful holidays are behind them and they are ready for a fresh start.
Happy New Year! Happy new you!
Contact Parker Mediation at 508.795.0200 to learn more about divorce mediation and what we can do for you.
Parker Mediation is dedicated to serving our clients with the best experience through troubled times. Our experienced divorce mediators help parties move away from positional bargaining and towards ideas that serve the interests of our clients. Cooperative explorations help people avoid impasses and obtain individualized and unique solutions. Our mediators defuse difficult situations that may have occurred when prior tactics failed.
How mediators help people is part skill, part art and part intuition. We understand that divorce can bring about negative feelings, poor behaviors and even irrational thinking. Our divorce mediators are specially trained to help you through aggressive adversarial tactics, insulting offers and bad faith proposals. We do this by exploring the realities and consequences of many different choices. Fear often drives people to act in unflattering ways. By taking control of your divorce, fear is reduced, rational thinking prevails and good decisions are made.
To learn more about divorce mediation and to schedule time with one of our mediators, call Yvonne at 508.795.0200. She’ll answer any additional questions and explain how to get started.
New Year’s Resolutions!
Don’t worry if you already failed to follow through on your New Year Resolutions, you can start fresh with the Year of the Red Dragon. That means good luck for you! Each New Year brings an opportunity to reflect on the past and to design the future. Resolve to make 2012 a great year. Take the steps to make the changes you need in your life. While we often resist change, go ahead, it will be ok.
Top Ten Resolutions:
#10 Get Organized!
Clean your desk, organize your papers, and collect your year-end documents so they will be ready for tax season. If you plan to divorce this year, these documents will assist you to analyze your financial situation. Also, you’ll be prepared to make full financial disclosure as part of the mediation process. You, your spouse and your divorce mediator will utilize the information to create a sustainable plan for the future.
Help others in need; it will make you realize that things aren’t so bad after all. Going through a divorce can be difficult. You may feel depressed and isolated. By volunteering, you will meet new people and feel good about yourself.
#8 Try Something New!
When was the last time you tried something for the first time? Learning something new helps stimulate the brain and keeps you young. If you are going through a divorce, your life is going to be different. Why not take the opportunity to do something you always wanted to try.
#7 Get Rid of Debt!
Live well, but within your means. Cut back on spending now to realize savings in the future. Divorce is usually a challenge financially. You can save a load of money using divorce mediation. The cost for divorce mediation is typically many thousands of dollars less than traditional litigation.
#6 Stop Smoking!
Really, just stop! If you need help, get it. There are lots of techniques to quit smoking. Herbs such as Lobelia and Oat Straw are just one of the many supportive therapies available to stop smoking. Need a reward? Just think how much money you will save.
#5 Get Fit!
Sounds easy, but it’s not. Getting fit and staying fit takes time. Start with a walk, then increase the time and distance. Change your routine, experiment and find things you like to do. Make a fitness date with a friend. Getting motivated and following through is easier when you do it together. Have fun and don’t get discouraged.
#4 Eat Healthy!
Eat your fruit and vegetables. Listen to your mother!
#3 Lose Weight
The stress of divorce can lead to unwanted pounds. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself eating cookies and ice cream. Let’s face it, you will feel better if you eat properly and exercise. Dropping a few pounds will not only make you feel better, you’ll look better. This could come in real handy post-divorce.
#2 Spend Time with Friends!
If you are used to being a couple, it may feel awkward getting out with friends. Just do it! How else are you going to meet new people? Socializing will help you get a glimpse of the future while navigating through the transition period.
#1 Joie de vivre!
Ok, so things didn’t turn out the way you expected. Life isn’t predictable, but it is worth living and you know how to give your best. Go ahead, enjoy yourself! You deserve to be happy.
The US Census numbers are out and there is good news!
People getting married are statistically more apt to stay together than in years past. One reason for the increase in “happily ever after” is that people are waiting longer to get married. Another reason might be that folks are not marrying in the first place. Census figures report one third of adults stay single. Without societal expectations for marriage, more people cohabitate. This begs the question, is marriage an outdated institution for the modern couple?
As long as children continue to listen to stories of frogs and dragons, prince and princess, the promise of a happy future beckons star crossed lovers. We do not have to look far for a fairytale wedding, just a hop over the pond. William Arthur Philip Louis and Catherine Elizabeth Middleton became husband and wife on St. Catherine’s day, 29 April 2011. In flawless style, the two joined in Westminster Abbey and delighted crowds with kisses from the balcony of Buckingham Palace.
These modern monarchs completed their educations, cohabitated, separated, and then finally married. Marrying at a later age often means folks are more educated and financially secure. It makes sense that people with greater life experiences will make better choices when it comes to choosing a mate. Congratulations to Will & Kate; may they join the 75% of folks that married since 1990 that celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary.
Larri Tonelli Parker joins Parkers Climb to raise awareness for Parkinson’s research: ParkersClimb.com
Today, as I wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving, I am thankful for family and the traditions that are celebrated during the holiday season. In addition, I am thankful for my health and plan to jumpstart my fitness program right after turkey day. I want to be ready for an upcoming Parker family tradition of adventure. After celebrating with an abundance of food, family and friends, I will prepare for my ascent to the ceiling of Africa. I have a passion for travel and this adventure promises to entertain.
We Parkers will climb Mt. Kilimanjaro to raise awareness for Parkinson’s disease. I have always enjoyed hiking outdoors, particularly to refresh my own soul. Now I climb to help others, to raise money for research, and to find a cure for Parkinson’s. In the last months, our band of Parkers and friends has climbed Mt. Mansfield in Vermont, Mt. Katahdin in Maine, and Mt. Greylock in Massachusetts. We are making new friends with each step and raising money along the way. [Read more...]
In Flanders Fields
In Flanders Fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.
Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.
- Lieutenant Colonel John McCrae, MD (1872-1918)
Canadian Army [Read more...]
My success has largely been due to the fact that I greet each mediation without expectation and I hold myself to the highest ethical standards, conducting myself with humility, integrity and humor. A non-threatening environment begins with a warm sincere smile. While I inform my clients that I am neutral, it is by working together that they learn to trust me. Perhaps more importantly, by collecting and sharing pertinent information, the parties learn to trust themselves as well as each other. It is precisely this trust that allows folks to move the process forward to find common solutions.
My work includes getting familiar with my clients, their needs, goals, fears, and hopes. I also learn about their issues and positions. I respect both sides of a story and help my clients to not only listen, but to speak up. I keep balance and level the playing field, remaining impartial while providing information and raising issues. Working together, mediation participants strategize and plan for the future. After all, it’s one thing to say,”I want a divorce!” and entirely another to figure out what’s next.
Respecting self-determination is one of the pillars of a successful mediation. Parties never are required to agree or reach agreement. Mediation is based upon voluntary participation, informed decision making and an unforced agreement of the parties. The process is confidential throughout. The parties use the mediation sessions to jointly consider proposed options and to uncover alternatives so all options are explored before final decisions are made. As Yogi Berra said, “It’s not over until it’s over” or as I like to say “nothing is agreed until everything is agreed.”
You’ve decided to use mediation for your divorce. Good choice. Divorce mediation has become more and more popular, as folks discover the benefits of resolving disputes privately. You’ll avoid useless litigiousness and delays caused by overburdened courts. Traditional litigation is expensive, not only on your wallet, but on your quality of life.
Winning strategies can be used to enhance results for all family members. Children want to remain close and connected to both parents, a harmonious state that is rarely achieved in conflicts where one or both parents engage the child in the conflict. Mediation provides parents the ability to communicate directly, and create a parenting plan that suits the needs of the family.
Take for example, the impact a long drawn out court case can have on you and your children. Too often, the litigation landscape sets up the parties for a win/lose situation. Unfortunately the child always loses. Mediation helps healthy families navigate conflict, minimizing the impact divorce has on kids.
By choosing mediation you can enjoy an efficient economic process to achieve your goals. Life on the other side of your divorce will be better, because the journey does matter.
A sincere heartfelt apology can go a long way to repair a relationship. In mediation, sometimes parties are able to transform toxic patterns by acknowledging past mistakes and sharing feelings of remorse about the effect those mistakes had on the relationship. Apologizing to clear the air and right past wrongs often permits parties to focus on the future and re-establish trust. When one party apologizes and the other party accepts the apology, both people are saying they want the post-divorce relationship to function well. Offering an apology is not a sign of weakness, it is a tool of strength.
Parties in mediation want to know what to do to make their divorce as simple as possible. Here are some tips on getting started. Have a chat with your spouse and decide who will gather the necessary documents. You may want to divide these tasks or break them down into several steps. Bring the documents that you have collected to the next mediation session. Don’t worry about gathering all the documents at once. If convenient, have copies made for each of you and for the mediator.
1. Tax Documents
a. Federal tax returns filed by you jointly for the last three (3) years
b. State tax returns filed by you jointly for the last three (3) years
2. A Certified Copy of the Marriage Certificate
3. Court Approved Parenting Certificates
4. Information about the Children of this Marriage
a. Names and dates of birth
b. Vision Statement
5. Life Insurance Policies
b. Owner of the policy
c. Term or Annuity
d. Death Benefit or Cash Value
6. Family Health Insurance Plan
b. Owner of the policy
c. Coverage of the non-employee spouse after divorce
d. Coverage of the children after divorce
e. Availability of a more economical form of health insurance
6. Pension, Annuity, Profit Sharing, Deferred Income or other Retirement Plan
b. Owner of the policy
c. Present Value or Death Benefit
7. Present Household Expenses
a. Are you up to date on bills?
b. How is each party contributing?
8. Marital Home
b. Approximate Fair Market Value
c. Mortgage Statement
9. Other Assets
a. Bank Account Statements
b. Money Market Funds
c. Stock and Bond Portfolio Statements
d. Business Interests
e. Vehicles, Kelly Blue Book or Edmunds Values
f. Values for Significant Personal Property
10. Possible Legacies or Inheritances
a. Estate Planning Documents
b. Trust Fund Documents
Your mediator will work with you on the topics that you are prepared to discuss. Taking measured steps in the mediation process will help you to stay in control and not feel overwhelmed. The beauty of mediation is that you can progress at your own pace and take time to discuss what is important to you.
Parties involved in Massachusetts divorce mediation may wish to consider how to allocate the child dependency exemption to maximize the overall benefit to the family and take the greatest tax benefit possible.
The IRS released regulations in 2008 suggesting that state courts may not allocate child dependency exemptions, verifying that a state court may not force a custodial parent to give up a federal right. However a custodial parent may voluntarily consent to allocate the child dependency exemption to the other parent. In that case, IRS Form 8332 may be used to release the exemption. Many parents agree to review how to allocate the tax dependency exemption annually, by calculating the potential benefit on their own, or in consultation with a financial advisor or accountant. Working together often puts more money in the parties’ pockets.
If you have questions about child dependency tax exemptions in Massachusetts, call our family law and divorce mediators at Parker Mediation for a consultation.
The Worcester, MA divorce lawyers and family mediators at Parker Mediation serve the Central Massachusetts and Boston metro-west communities such as Clinton, Framingham, Fitchburg, Leominster, Marlborough, Millbury, Shrewsbury, Sutton, Westborough and Worcester, Massachusetts.
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Worcester, MA Divorce Lawyer & Family Mediation:
- Larri Parker Worcester Divorce Lawyer & Mediator
Parker Mediation provides Massachusetts families an effective and affordable divorce resolution model.
Our experienced divorce lawyers and mediators are dedicated to advancing the use of effective and highly successful mediation techniques to help advance an amicable resolution in a timely manner.
With nearly ten years of mediation experience in Massachusetts, our trained family law attorney mediators protect your legal and financial interests while managing conflict to a mutually acceptable resolution for all parties.
An effective mediation process by a trained and experienced Massachusetts mediator is the most affordable, timely and emotionally balanced method of bringing conflict to a mutually beneficial resolution.
The family and divorce mediators in the Worcester, MA office of Parker Mediation serve the Central Massachusetts and Boston metro-west communities such as Clinton, Framingham, Fitchburg, Leominster, Marlborough, Millbury, Shrewsbury, Sutton, Westborough and Worcester, Massachusetts.